Relationships with an abusive partner and relationships with healthy partners often start the same. As a matter of fact, romantic gestures that feel good can be major red flags in a relationship. Confusing, isn’t it? Let’s look at a couple of red flags to gain a better perspective:
1. The abusive partner professes their love very early on.
– Be aware that long-lasting and healthy relationships require communication and trust, which take time to build.
2. They want to spend all of their time with you (or text or call excessively).
– Requests for more time together can become toxic when you are pressured or feel guilty for spending time with others. Relationships should not be built on coercion and manipulation of emotions.
At Rose Brooks, we know the realities and dangers of an abusive elationship, and is the reason why we educate those we serve about red flags. Which, by the way, are not only seen at the beginning of a relationship. Sometimes red flags surface over time, making it very difficult for the victim to leave or disclose to those around them. Often
the victim is the only one who sees the abuse. They feel afraid, ashamed, and isolated from the world, including their friends and family.
We also provide extensive education to the community, so they know how to respond to others when they suspect someone is in an abusive relationship. We ask them to believe the victim’s story. . . even when it seems unbelievable. For a victim, finally revealing the truth can bring a sense of hope.
Most importantly, Rose Brooks is here and we can help. Rose Brooks Center’s hotline is 816-861-6100.
To see more resources and a list of red flags, please visit www.rosebrooks.org/facts-and-resources/.